We Are Getting Married

Stephen & Alyssa

January 24th 2026

Our Story

We were two different individuals on our own journeys of seeking and knowing Christ, desiring to serve Him and be His vessels. In His perfect timing, the Lord led us both to Chiang Mai, Thailand, where our paths crossed at Refuge Fellowship and He began writing our story together. As we prepare to marry, we do so with hearts committed to Him, trusting His guidance for the life we will build together.

Stephen Debbarma

I come from a small town in Bishramganj, India, born and raised in a Baptist family. Though I grew up in church, I was dead in sin—living a double life and chasing the desires of the flesh, as if in the gutters. But God, in His mercy, saved me and gave me new life in Christ. Since then, my heart has longed to serve Him and to find someone who shared the same calling. I often prayed through Proverbs 31:30, even wondering if my standard was too high. Yet, in His perfect timing, God brought Alyssa into my life. She is the answer to my prayers, and together we desire to serve the Lord. Her humility and servant heart inspire me every day to love Him faithfully.

Alyssa Katherine Rooke

“Trust in the Lord…” has been the theme and challenge of my life. In 2020, I left behind my home, friends, and family in the United States to move to Southeast Asia. While there are many details to my story, the heart of it is simple: I knew the Lord was calling me to serve Him and His people. I didn’t have all the answers, but I knew I had to follow His call. For 32 years, I prayed and waited for a partner who loved the Lord and shared the same desire to serve Him. In July 2024, I met Stephen. Over the months of friendship and learning each other’s hearts, I realized he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. His love and dedication to the Lord strengthen my faith and inspire me daily. I cannot wait to walk this journey together and continue following God’s call on our lives.